Talking to your Adults

COnsider these tools to get you started during a healthcare visit -

Talking to your Providers

You deserve a provider who respects your identity and listens without judgment.

It’s okay to ask about sexual health, birth control, STIs, or relationships - they’ve heard it all before.

Be honest about your body, feelings, or partners - that helps them give the right info.

You can say:

    • “Is what I tell you private?”

    • “I’m LGBTQ+, do you have experience working with queer youth?”

    • “Can I talk to you without my parent here?”

You have a right to inclusive, safe, and private health care.

Getting Parents out of the room

  • You have the right to private time with your doctor or nurse.

  • Talking one-on-one helps you ask personal questions safely.

  • Providers should explain what’s confidential and what might need to be shared.

  • It’s okay to ask: “Can we talk alone for a few minutes?”

  • Most clinics make time for this during teen visits - it’s normal and encouraged.

Getting the bill processed with health insurance & Explanation of benefits (EOB)

If you’re on a parent or guardian’s insurance, they might get a bill called an EOB.

The EOB can show the type of service or visit, even if it doesn’t show details.

This can sometimes reveal private care, like STI testing or birth control.

Ask:

    • “Who gets the EOB for this visit?”

    • “Can it be sent to me instead?”

Some states let dependents request confidential EOBs - check your state’s rules.

If you’re worried, your provider can help you find low-cost or confidential care options.

Legal Stuff:

  • The laws about what teens can consent to vary by state.

  • Many states let minors get care for STIs, birth control, pregnancy, or mental health without parental permission.

  • Ask your provider or clinic staff what applies where you live.

  • Your health info can still show up on portals, lab results, or insurance bills - ask how they protect your privacy.

  • Clinics should have clear policies to keep your information safe and private.

Protecting Your Privacy

  • Ask your provider to explain what’s kept private and what might be shared.

  • Learn how online patient portals or apps share info; results or notes might be visible.

  • Talk to staff about how results, prescriptions, or bills are sent.

  • Use clinics that are LGBTQ+ friendly and offer confidential services for youth.

  • Know that it’s okay to bring questions and to ask for privacy at any time.